We live in a world where image is valued more than anything else.
As humans, we’re judged by the way we look, the way we dress, the car we drive, the job we have, our level of education and even the suburb we live in.
As women, we’re judged by all of the above, as well as our relationship status, the size of our diamond, the shape of our eyebrows, the colour of our nails, the state of our hair, the bag we carry and the list goes on.
As MOTHERS, it’s a whole different ball game. (Don’t get me started on this list!). In summary, you’re pretty much judged on every decision you ever make. Welcome to motherhood!
Before I fell pregnant I was technically considered “tall and slender”. I’ve always had body image issues so the most important thing for me is that I feel comfortable. And I did.
With my first pregnancy I put on 25kg. With my second 15kg. Alot of weight to some. But I still felt comfortable.
Then it came time to lose the weight. First time round it took me a year. Just as I was back to my pre-baby weight I fell pregnant. Now I’m finding the struggle to get comfortable in my new skin a difficult one.
But apparently according to “society” I’m not entitled to feel this way.
Comments like
“You’re fine”
“You’re back to normal”
“There’s nothing wrong with you”
“Stop being stupid” are constantly thrown in my direction.
So my question is..
Why do we feel that it is okay to be negative or body shame “skinny” people?
To YOU I may look “fine”.
I might be lighter on the scales than you.
Or taller than you.
Or “back to normal” in your eyes.
But to ME I am different.
I have flabby parts too.
I have stretch marks too.
I have cellulite too.
I have excess weight I can’t loose.
I have bumps and lumps that were never there before.
My body is different.
Yours is too…different from what it used to be and different to mine. I will never be like I used to be and that’s okay, because I have two beautiful children to show for it.
So instead, I will find a way to become comfortable in my new body. In my post baby body. But this may take a while. In the meantime, there’s no reason to dismiss my journey. I will celebrate your success, just like you should celebrate mine. We’re all battling the same emotions and struggling with the same fears. We’re all different.
And that’s okay.
That’s what makes us beautiful.
Sending you love,
MBS
xx
