The Easiest Way to great distraction and way to explore a new side of our personality is to ‘put on a version’ of ourselves that is not the same one we wake up to every morning. It is all fun and games, until you end up loosing the beauty of the real you.
As a little girl dress ups played a major role in my life. Now that I am a Mum of 3 beautiful creative kids, not much has changed in that department. The feeling of putting on a costume is just as exciting as changing into the next one 5 minutes after changing our mind.
It is very interesting to see how this translates into teenage years and adult life. When we are going through the phase of ‘discovering who we are, SO many versions come into play. The ‘preppy’, the ‘sporty’, the ‘girly’, they all represent something within us that is trying to come out to the world.
As adults, this takes a new meaning. We begin to consider who other people think we should be, whatever their versions of who we are starting to often dictate how we feel. But what do clothes have to do with this?
What we chose to wear every day usually reflect how we are feeling on the inside, it is an outward expression of our thoughts, feeling and message we intend to portray to the world around us. We might not realize it, but when you really think about it, feeling ‘comfortable’ or ‘empowered’ usually can be the difference between a sneaker or a stiletto. This is what I LOVE the most when discovering PERSONAL style with my clients.
3 key questions I go through with them: 1. Who do you see when you look at yourself in the mirror? 2. Why? 3 What are you trying to achieve?
Their response often takes us to our next conversation which goes along the lines of “I feel different now, and I am not really sure what to do about it”. BINGO, this is where real change happens, and the ‘dress ups’ go out the window. Whether is a change in Job, role or even motherhood they all bring a new ‘flare’ of exciting things, and with this, often, a new version of our personality dying to be expressed. There is nothing wrong with changing our ‘look’ from one transition period to the next, if we keep in mind that what we choose must be authentic to our personality, no more ‘they think I should wear this’. More of the real ME.