Can’t tell you how easy and how happy I am to share with you my experiences as an almost 64 year young mother of four.

I was 22 when I gave birth to our first beautiful daughter. How fortunate I was to be able to enjoy every second of the waking time with her. She was the most wonderful and amazing ‘toy’ I had ever been given and I NEVER wanted to stop playing with her. You need to know those same feelings were felt by me a further three times – so much joy and love.

Now, our eldest is 41, our son 39, the two younger daughters are 35 and 33 and I still love every second we spend together, though now they are not only our children, they are also our friends. One daughter still phones and asks if I have time to play? – which I LOVE!

My mum always said ‘little children – little worries and big children – big worries’. As a mum, no matter what age, you NEVER stop worrying. Sport was our saving grace. Our children were so busy on a weekend and during the week, they had very little time to drift.¬† As parents we became involved in all of their sports and we were always there to encourage, celebrate and say ‘thanks for giving the other competitors a chance¬†to do well or win.” Weekend sport wasn’t a babysitter, it was a great social event for the whole FAMILY and we made lifelong friends.

Teenage years were interesting. I always stayed up until they were home. Rule was kiss goodnight even if I was in bed (good way to check for alcohol, cigarettes, etc). Fortunately, sport taught them to look after their bodies. I don’t want you to think our children were perfect – they weren’t !

worrying mum

Sure they wanted to party – I made a point of meeting whoever they were going out with. The rule was if they had a friend of the opposite sex over, their bedroom door remained OPEN ! Having the two younger girls made this easy – if the door was closed, I would send them in with ironing or washing time after time and the door remained open – MESSAGE RECEIVED ! In saying that, their 21st speeches certainly opened my eyes to a few things !!!! (I can laugh now).

Once your children are grown up and married, be mindful not to interfere and only share your opinions when asked – there is always a smart way to suggest. Most important is to learn to love/like your daughter or son-in-law or at least work on a good relationship with them – after all, the main goal is their happiness.

We will soon be welcoming our 10th grandchild and for the 10th time – can’t wait to meet our ‘newest toy’! I love how I have formed such a special bond with ALL OF THEM.

Nothing beats being rich in FAMILY and believe me, I thank God everyday for OUR AMAZING WEALTH !!!!

Written by Hannie Graham – a very happy mum, mother-in-law and GIGI.