As parents, we assume we know what’s best for our kids. We’re forced to make decisions for them that set up their lives. In the initial stages those choices are simpler, but as they grow and develop the decisions are intensified.
How can I be sure that I’m doing the right thing? Half the time I have no idea what I’m doing, yet I’m faced with all these important decisions that need to be made for someone else.
What if I make the wrong one?
Parenting is an exceptionally tough gig. You are your child’s first teacher. It’s up to you to equip them with all the tools and skills they need to cope in this life.
As a parent you want the best for your child. You want them to grow up being well rounded individuals with a strong sense of self-worth, compassion and resilience. You want them to develop positive relationships, showing kindness and acceptance along the way.
While they’re little you have the opportunity to lead by example and instill all the values you believe in. However, growing up is a part of life, so there will come a day where they become independent teens and adults, being influenced by their peers and the world around them.
My firstborn has started preschool this year, and the changes in him are huge. His emotions are intensified and his behaviour is…different. For the most part the changes have been positive, however he’s developed certain traits that challenge me as a mother.
At first I spent alot of my time trying to correct the behaviour, and disciplining him, however this just led to me spending most of my day telling him what he’s doing wrong. So instead I now focus on what he should be doing instead. I emphasise the positive and shift the focus from the negative.
For me, this is just the beginning. The real challenges are yet to come.
In the end, we can only hope that the decisions we make are the right choices for our children’s future, and their well-being. We can pray that they soak up all the skills that make them confident role models for their peers, and for the most part lead by example.
What more could we possibly ask for?
Sending you love,
MBS
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